Dominance is a characteristic that a man is given by nature. His testosterone provides the necessary aggression. His muscular strength guarantees the required power. And his determination ensures that he achieves what he wants.
This doesn’t apply to every man, but we’re talking about the dominant kind, which still exists despite the ubiquitous feminism. We’re talking about real men who don’t deny their nature. Men who set the tone and don’t let women tell them what to do and what not to do.
In the scene, the dominant man is known as a Dom and the submissive woman as a sub (derived from the term subjection). This stands for what men have always been and what women still are. For thousands of years, he has been the mover and shaker of history. She was the woman at his side, who was there for relaxation, upliftment and all the other supporting tasks. Those who are religious see a divine order in this. Everyone else recognizes that there are concrete reasons for a man’s dominance.
A Dom worthy of the name is aware that he is already naturally superior to practically every female. He simply has more muscles and therefore decidedly more strength. He is mentally resilient and therefore able to cope with most critical situations. And finally, he usually also has the superior intellectual edge, because his mind is not slowed down by emotional weaknesses, hindered by menstrual cycles and weakened by uncontrollable moods.
A real Sub is a force in the background
Even if few men realize it: Women are irreplaceable in a man’s life. They build him up when he has suffered life’s blows and is morally down. They repair his soul when he has been hurt although no one can see it. They take care of his physical well-being and ensure his mental balance. They are the oasis for him to retreat and find strength for new ventures.
But women want to be cared for. They are fragile beings who need a protective hand. They are far more dependent on their physical well-being than any man. They are subject to hormonal fluctuations and experience a constant interplay of emotions over which they have no control. They have a lot to give, but when they are dependent on themselves, they quickly reach their limits.
This is when the ubiquitous talk of the strong woman doesn’t help them. This is when constantly hyped emancipation is neither the way nor the solution. This is the situation when women need a man who is simply there to give them a foothold in life. A rock in the surf. A strong tree to lean onto and enjoy the feeling of security.
Because no matter what the mainstream wants to tell them, women are not really made for competing with the male world. They are not looking for the big challenge. They prefer balance and security. They would rather be part of something big than stand alone in the limelight and be the great leader. They appreciate the protective warmth of the group, because having only to rely on yourself makes lonely. Of course, there are exceptions, but it is rare to find out what the „successful“ women are like on the inside.
A woman will stand by her man forever if she feels protected and in good hands in his presence. She will visibly blossom when she is appreciated by him and feels his love. She will be there for him with all her devotion, support him and look after his well-being. She will not confront him, but stand by his side. She will not see him as an opponent to be defeated. She will know that nature has not called her to be a leader, but expects her to be the silent force in the background that no one notices and that only he can appreciate.
She needs to acknowledge his superiority
Power corrupts, as the saying goes. Those who are superior to others always run the risk of abusing this superiority in order to become even stronger, more powerful and ultimately unassailable. You can see this in politics. You can see it in business. And many a woman experiences this very directly and at some point regrets getting involved with a dominant man. Whenever his dominance mutates into a pure demonstration of power. When he strikes just because he can. And when he humiliates her just because it gives him satisfaction.
But dominance is a privilege with limitations. A Dom with a certain mental level is above the temptation to unleash his power without restraint. He knows his physical strength and he is also aware of his mental strength. He knows that nature had a very specific reason for endowing him with these qualities. He does not see his superiority over women as an invitation to suppress and subjugate them. Because he realizes that without the female element in his life, he is missing something crucial.
Somehow it’s like the relationship between a father and his daughter. Her father is the greatest in her life. Father can accomplish everything and is allowed to do everything. Whatever father promises her, he will keep. Without her father, she is nothing and wouldn’t have the slightest chance of survival.
Father will beat her when he sees fit. He will fetch the cane, use his leather belt or pick up the dreaded whip. She will be naked and writhe under his blows when she is punished. It will hurt her, leave her with welts and make her scream. She will have tears in her eyes when it is over. But at some point she will humbly come to him and ask for forgiveness. And he will take her in his arms and comfort his little girl. Then everything will be forgiven and forgotten and father will once again be who he always was in her eyes.
It’s not much different for a woman. Deep down, she knows that he is superior to her. She will therefore look up to him and accept his authority. She will give him everything a woman can give: Devotion, love, understanding, moral support, comfort, a sympathetic ear and all the support he expects from her. But she is not perfect. She is a woman and therefore subject to moods. Sometimes, she will resist him. She will challenge him. She will neglect her duties. She will forget that it is he who provides for her and her children, that she is dependent on him and should be grateful to him. She will overlook the fact that he is the master of the house and is therefore above her. That she owes him obedience. And that he is a dominant man who doesn’t put up with anything from a woman.
At some point, he will chastise her too. Maybe it will just be a spontaneous slap in the face if she has taken it too far. Or he’ll give her a rough slap on the butt. But if her offense is big enough, he will order her into the bedroom and give her a full-blown spanking. He will insist that she is naked to feel the full effect of his anger. And he will have no ear for her pleas and begging. He will be deaf to her whining and crying and ignore her tears of remorse. He will simply give her what she deserves.
Actually, he won’t treat her much differently than a disobedient teenager. He will take the paddle and rain down loud slapping blows on her bottom. Or she’ll feel the flogger, drawing a dozen welts on her skin with each stroke. Maybe he’ll tie her up as she tries to run away from her punishment. Or he will hang her from a hook on the ceiling and make her dance under the whip. In any case, he will make her scream, whimper and howl. He will hurt her and definitely leave marks on her body that will take days to fade.
When he has finished with her, he will leave her alone so that she can think about her offenses. But he will come back at some point. He will take her in his arms and forgive her. Because he did punish her for defying him. He chastised her harshly because she broke one of his rules. He humiliated her and made her feel that he was her master and that she had to obey him. But that doesn’t change the fact that he still loves her.
A humble woman will therefore use more than words to ask for his forgiveness. She will take hold of his manhood and use her mouth, lips and tongue to satisfy him with all her devotion and make amends for having angered him and not proving herself to be the woman he is entitled to. The reconciliation between the two will therefore be intimate and fierce. She will feel the full hardness of his cock. And it will be more powerful than it has been for a long time. In the end, both will be fully satisfied, while his cock shrinks inside her and her welts continue to ache.
A racket is just hollow violence
In comparison, the thug has the strength of a man, but lacks the intellect. Although he is physically superior to his wife, he is not in control of his own body and is therefore unable to use his strength in a targeted and well-considered manner. He does not act according to any rules and principles. He simply relies on his masculine strength and strikes. Because if she doesn’t parry, she deserves a beating and if she resists him, she has to find out once again who is the man of the house.
So he doesn’t think twice and teaches her a lesson she won’t soon forget. He uses the brute force of his fists where the hot burn of a flat hand would have sufficed. He doesn’t think things through, and he doesn’t have an arsenal of carefully selected instruments of punishment. He takes whatever is at hand and strikes uncontrollably. He gives little thought to the consequences of his actions. He simply lets out his aggression and gives little thought to the damage he causes.
His masculinity is raw and unrestrained. His trademark is the fist. His effect is destructive. His intellect is limited.
And yet he is admired, valued, respected and loved by his wife in an incomprehensible way.
Women’s shelters repeatedly experience that some women are brought in with bleeding noses, blue eyes and hematomas all over their bodies, only to be picked up days later by a man with a bouquet of flowers in his hands, while they fall lovingly and forgivingly into his arms to kiss and reconcile with him.
Deep-seated instincts are stronger than any logic and even a brutal thug is a strong man who offers a woman at least the illusion of protection and security.